This write-up is a lesson for us to learn from Nas Daily breakup that we need to build a better relationship that is far beyond our imagination.
I personally remembered years back when the engagement happened and the congratulatory messages that came through. But you know how life is, sometimes, things just happened that we seem not to have control over. When the breakup story came up, my mind ran back to the messages of congratulation from fans and well-wishers who wishes them the best as they began a new life of togetherness forever. But right now, it seems that the sweet story of love has become a bitter pill.
When it comes to the matter of life, it is something that beats our imagination. The mystery behind the power to love and be loved is just unimaginable. Taking a look at this breakup, the writeup from Nathanael Disu which I came across on his Facebook timeline seems to give a deep insight into the lessons of life we should learn from this love gone bad situation. Here it is, as we take a ride with it.
I watched the breakup video of Nas Daily and I found something really interesting while I listened.
Interesting things from the lady and from him.
I discovered there was a CLASH OF AMBITIONS.
And when I read what boss Oséyómón Ighódálóh talked about under boss Mute Efe's post in reference to the breakup about how every King needs a Queen, I totally agreed with him and decided to merge both perspectives.
Please do read this (VERY IMPORTANT)...
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Starting from the breakup video, if you listened to the girlfriend well, you'll hear a lot of "I, I, I, Me, My".
"You were my priority".
"I did not become the priority".
"I waited so long".
"I already waited 6 years".
"I dated you".
"I'm not going to live forever".
"I have only one life".
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From Nas Daily and Dear Alyne on their breakup.
This is the end. Dear Alyne and I are breaking up.
You, the audience, were the first people to know about our relationship 6 years ago.
You were with us during our lows and highs.
You cheered for us.
That's why you also deserve to know about the end of our relationship.
This is the longest video we've ever made. 13 minutes long.
I hope this helps someone out there with their relationship. I hope they can avoid our mistakes before it's too late.
Until then, Alyne and I will remain good friends. We have zero regrets.
Because...
No growth of the heart is ever a waste.
Love you, Alyne.
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My personal thesis is that...
They were not meant to be together in the first place. And the fact that it took 6 years for them to figure it out was an error.
She clearly had a different ambition and wanted a different world from his.
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After the "fun and romantic moments" eased out, Nas said...
"I stopped taking her on dates and focused all my energy on the videos and my company".
To me, that's the defining moment of their relationship.
Not that he didn't like her anymore, but that after all the "fun", she just couldn't fit into his ambition.
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And it's not her fault, nor his, like I said, I strongly feel they weren't even meant to be together in the first place.
They liked each other, but their ambitions were different (and something would definitely have to give way).
Men would always be attached to their work, irrespective of who they marry/date.
And if any lady's ambition doesn't fit into the man's ambition and both are ambitious, they would have issues.
To explain this best, let's have a look at Tony Elumelu and his wife, Dr Awele Elumelu.
A perfect case study to explain this concept...
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Tony Elumelu is attached to his work always, but one of the main reasons his marriage works is that his wife's dream complements his dream.
She fits into his kingdom.
So it's easy for him to focus on his work while still having a happy marriage because his wife is part of his "work".
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He is an economist/banker, and she is a medical doctor (two different career paths).
But despite being a medical doctor, she buys into his dream and fits into it.
That's why it's easier for them to build Tony Elumelu Foundation and Heirs Holdings empire together.
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She owns a medical company called Avon Medical. He owns a Bank called UBA.
Together they built a company called Heirs Holdings that controls UBA, AVON and other subsidiaries.
Avon and UBA are sort of "subsidiaries" under the Heirs Holdings group.
Her dream/ambition fits into his own.
Avon is kind of the official medical arm of all his companies and most likely, Avon would bank with UBA.
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She didn't give up her dream for him.
She didn't abandon medicine to become a banker or an economist.
She's still a medical doctor and runs a medical company.
But she BOUGHT INTO HIS DREAM OF AFRICAPITALISM and found a way to fit into his kingdom without giving up on her own dream.
So she controls a territory (Avon Medical) within Oga Tony's kingdom (Heirs Holdings).
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Some ladies talk about patriarchy.
But then, God built this world that way.
It's a man's world baby.
God created man and gave him WORK to rule over a Kingdom.
A man has always been and would always be attached to WORK.
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God gave the man a woman to be his HELP MEET.
A woman from his ribs.
A woman who FITS into the man's KINGDOM.
There's a reason God didn't create woman from dust again but from man.
Patriarchy isn't necessarily the problem, but who you allow to rule over you is where your concern is and that's where the problem lies.
As huge and successful as Dr Awele is, she's submitting to Oga Tony without giving up her dreams.
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The bitter truth ladies may not like is that...
Every woman needs a crown over her head and someone she wants to submit to.
A woman who enjoys her marriage has no problem calling her husband her King.
If you find a man who makes you come alive, you'll want to submit to him.
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You can only balance work and marriage/relationship if your partner's dream complements yours.
It's easy for a KING to have attention to his QUEEN if she's part of his kingdom.
Because he sees her as part of him.
The moment you want to build your own territory which doesn't align with his kingdom and you want to wrestle power to fit into your own desires, he would "banish you" (divorce/break up) and marry someone who fits into his kingdom.
There can only be one KING in a kingdom.
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As a woman, be with a man whose dream matches/compliments yours.
A man won't give up his dream for you.
That's not how God designed it.
In the garden, God didn't give women "work".
He gave it to the man but assigned the woman to "help him".
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So her purpose/relevance was to make his work easier/better/bigger.
She FIT into Adam's KINGDOM.
As a woman, it doesn't mean you should give up your dream for him but rather find a way to build your dream within/around his dream.
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It doesn't mean you do the same thing as him (that's why I referenced The Elumelus).
A man would always be attached to his work, but if you're part of his kingdom, he makes you part of his priority.
Together you rule a territory as a QUEEN to a KING who has a kingdom.
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As a lady, if you have high ambitions, find a man who has a higher ambition and builds your ambition within/around his kingdom and be a joint ruler with him.
That's why it's the man's job to leave his family in search of his wife.
He should look for a woman who can fit into his dream.
It's the responsibility of the woman to accept the man whose dream compliments hers.
Be his QUEEN as he is your KING and rule with him.
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God rules a Kingdom (the universe).
He gave man (humans) dominion to rule over a part of His kingdom (earth).
Together, man is a joint heir to God.
We rule over a territory WITHIN God's KINGDOM.
But God is still the SUPREME KING!
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There's a whole lot more to talk about, but I'll end it here.
The end!
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